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Definition of ghost

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Definition of ghost  (Entry 2 of 2)

transitive verb

intransitive verb

  • bogie
  • familiar spirit
  • hant [ dialect ]
  • haunt [ chiefly dialect ]
  • materialization
  • fantasm
  • poltergeist
  • spectre

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Noun and Verb

Middle English gost, gast , from Old English gāst ; akin to Old High German geist spirit, Sanskrit heḍa anger

before the 12th century, in the meaning defined at sense 1

circa 1616, in the meaning defined at transitive sense 1

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  • ghost / shadow of one's former self
  • ghost story
  • give up the ghost
  • ghost of a chance
  • ghost chili

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What Is Ghosting?

The noun ghost   has been around a very long time, since before 900, when Old English was spoken. Originally it referred to the soul of a dead person or a disembodied spirit, and this meaning is still in use. In the recent past, ghost and ghosting have expanded in meaning, and today this term is often evoked in relation to dating.

How do you know if you’ve been ghosted?

You are a victim of ghosting if you one day realize that the person you’ve been seeing for two months is no longer replying to your texts. The verb form is also widely used; you can date someone for a few months and then ghost . Dictionary.com defines ghosting as “the practice of suddenly ending all contact with a person without explanation, especially in a romantic relationship.”

With ghosting there is no break-up conversation, perhaps because the relationship was not serious enough to warrant a formal break-up or because confrontation was seen as too difficult or not worth the trouble. Whatever the reason, the act of ghosting effectively ends a relationship. This sense of ghosting is a logical metaphorical extension of the original sense since exes can have the quality of lingering long after they’ve exited a person’s life.

When did people start ghosting?

The “ending a relationship” sense of ghosting is relatively new to English, but how new? On November 23, 2007, an Urban Dictionary entry for this sense of ghost appeared: “To ghost: Cutting all ties with a girl. I’m totally ghosting Ania as of right now .” Before 2007, a few similar senses of ghosting and ghost pop up in Urban Dictionary, however, they aren’t in this specific context of breaking up without actually breaking up.

It’s likely that the spread of this particular sense of ghosting is linked to the increasing use of online dating apps. Though online dating has been around for over twenty years, Tinder entered the scene in late 2012, and became ubiquitous in 2013. Around that time the term ghosting really took off in mainstream media. By 2014 and 2015 major publications like New York Times , Huffington Post , and the Independent were writing about it.

This sense of ghosting might find its roots in the idiom get ghost , meaning “to leave immediately; to disappear,” which gained popularity in ‘90s hip-hop. The Right Rhymes shows examples of this expression referring to sexual encounters from as early as 1994. However, these lyrics seem to be specifically about one-night stands. Going even further back, the Oxford English Dictionary lists the phrases to ghost it and to ghost away meaning “to steal away like a ghost,” as dating from the 1800s. In this update, Dictionary.com also added a related sense of ghosting : “the act of leaving a social event or engagement suddenly without saying goodbye.”

These links seem viable, but the exact origins of the “ending a relationship” sense of ghosting remain unknown. This all adds to the mystery of the term, which any victim of ghosting can agree is appropriate.

Jane Solomon is a lexicographer based in Oakland, CA. She spends her days writing definitions and working on various projects for Dictionary.com. In the past, she’s worked with other dictionary publishers including Cambridge, HarperCollins, Oxford, and Scholastic, and she was a coauthor of “Among the New Words,” a quarterly article in the journal American Speech. She is also part of the Unicode Emoji Subcommittee, the group that decides what new emoji pop up on our devices. Jane blogs at  Lexical Items , and she is the author of the children’s book The Dictionary of Difficult Words .

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Jeffrey Epstein: documents linking associates to sex offender unsealed

Bill Clinton, Michael Jackson, David Copperfield and Prince Andrew among names contained in court documents

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Numerous court documents identifying associates of notorious sex offender Jeffrey Epstein were made public on Wednesday.

Some of the high-profile names in the court documents include Prince Andrew, the former US president Bill Clinton, Michael Jackson, and David Copperfield.

These associates’ just-unsealed names were contained in court documents filed as part of Epstein accuser Virginia Giuffre’s lawsuit against Ghislaine Maxwell ; the documents include excerpts of depositions and motions in this case. The British socialite was convicted in December 2021 of sex trafficking and similar charges for procuring teen girls for disgraced financier Epstein.

Prior to the unsealing, the names were listed in court papers as variants of J Doe. Many of the names are people who had been publicly identified as Epstein associates prior to this unsealing.

The inclusion of a name in this list does not mean that said associate has been accused of wrongdoing in relation to Epstein. Among the names are people mentioned in passing at legal proceedings

In a deposition, Maxwell appears to say that Andrew visited Epstein’s Island in the US Virgin Islands. Epstein has been accused of abusing numerous girls on this island.

“Were you present on the island when Prince Andrew visited?” Maxwell was asked.

She responded in the affirmative and, when asked how many times, she said: “I can only remember once.” When asked if there were any girls on the island at that time, Maxwell insisted: “There were no girls on the island at all. No girls, no women, other than the staff who work at the house.”

One document included a deposition given by Johanna Sjoberg, whom Maxwell allegedly procured for the purpose of performing sex acts on Epstein.

Sjoberg said in her deposition that Epstein “said one time that Clinton likes them young, referring to girls”.

In 2019, Clinton’s spokesperson Angel Ureña denied claims made about Clinton’s involvement with Epstein and wrote in a statement on Twitter that “President Clinton knows nothing about the terrible crimes Jeffrey Epstein pleaded guilty to in Florida some years ago, or those with which he has been recently charged in New York.”

Clinton notably had an 18-month long affair with Monica Lewinsky, his then 22-year-old intern, during his first term as president. He was 49 years old.

Sjoberg also said that the late musician Michael Jackson was at Epstein’s Palm Beach mansion, and that she met the famed magician David Copperfield.

“Did you ever meet anybody famous when you were with Jeffrey? she was asked. “I met Michael Jackson … at [Epstein’s] house in Palm Beach.”

Asked whether she massaged Jackson, Sjoberg said: “I did not.”

As for Copperfield, Sjoberg said that he attended dinner at one of Epstein’s homes and “he did some magic tricks”.

“Did you observe David Copperfield to be a friend of Jeffrey Epstein’s?” she was asked. Sjoberg replied in the affirmative.

“Did Copperfield ever discuss Jeffrey’s involvement with young girls with you?” she was also asked. “He questioned me if I was aware that girls were getting paid to find other girls.”

Copperfield, she said in the deposition, didn’t tell her any specifics of that question. “Did he say whether they were teenagers or anything along those lines?” she was also asked. “He did not.”

Donald Trump, whose association with Epstein has been widely reported, was also mentioned in the documents; the former US president is not accused of wrongdoing. In Sjoberg’s deposition, she said that they went to one of Trump’s casinos in Atlantic City when a storm prevented Epstein’s plane from landing in New York City.

“Jeffrey said, Great, we’ll call up Trump and we’ll go to – I don’t recall the name of the casino, but – we’ll go to the casino.” Asked at one point whether she ever gave Trump a massage, Sjoberg said “no”.

The deposition also includes Sjoberg’s account of allegedly meeting Prince Andrew at Epstein’s New York home. “Ghislaine asked me to come to a closet. She just said, Come with me. We went to a closet and grabbed the puppet, the puppet of Prince Andrew,” she said in the deposition.

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“And I knew it was Prince Andrew because I had recognized him as a person. I didn’t know who he was. And so when I saw the tag that said Prince Andrew, then it clicked. I’m like, that’s who it is.”

Sjoberg and Maxwell then returned to the living room with the puppet. “I just remember someone suggesting a photo, and they told us to go get on the couch. And so Andrew and Virginia sat on the couch, and they put the puppet, the puppet on her lap,” Sjoberg recalled. “And so then I sat on Andrew’s lap, and I believe on my own volition, and they took the puppet’s hands and put it on Virginia’s breast, and so Andrew put his on mine.”

Sjoberg said she went to bed shortly thereafter. “Did you hear Ghislaine Maxwell tell Virginia to do anything while you were in that room?” she was asked. Sjoberg replied: “No.”

Giuffre, who claimed that Epstein and Maxwell forced her into a sexual encounter with Britain’s Prince Andrew at age 17, had sued the publishing heiress for defamation after claiming the accuser lied. Giuffre settled her lawsuit against Maxwell in 2017.

In 2021, Giuffre sued Prince Andrew over the alleged sexual abuse. The suit settled in early 2022. Andrew has always strenuously denied any wrongdoing. As part of the settlement, he agreed to donate to Giuffre’s victims’ rights charity.

The documents’ release is among several tranches of filings in Giuffre’s civil case that were unsealed following the Miami Herald’s years-long effort to make them public. Giuffre did not make allegations of wrongdoing against Clinton.

In one set of documents released in July 2020, Giuffre claimed that Maxwell participated in Epstein’s sexual abuse of teen girls. These documents were released several weeks after Maxwell’s arrest for her involvement in Epstein’s sex trafficking.

Giuffre claimed that Maxwell lured her into Epstein’s perverse orbit under the false pretense of work as a professional masseuse. Instead, Giuffre said, Maxwell “trained me as a sex slave”, according to a filing in that set of unsealed court papers.

The documents released in July 2020 also provided insight into Maxwell and Epstein’s relationship.

In a January 2015 email exchange, Epstein told Maxwell: “You have done nothing wrong and i woudl [sic] urge you to start acting like it … go outside, head high, not as an esacping [sic] convict. go to parties. deal with it.”

In another 2015 email, Epstein tells Maxwell she “can issue a reward” to any of Giuffre’s friends to “prove her allegations are false”, including what Epstein said was a “new version” of a claim that the renowned English theoretical physicist Steven Hawking had participated in an “underage orgy” in the Virgin Islands. Hawking, who died in 2018 , has not been accused of a crime related to Epstein.

A large collection of documents in Giuffre’s civil case were also unsealed in August 2019. Those papers included accusations, since denied, that global leaders were participants in Epstein’s trafficking ring.

Epstein was arrested on 6 July 2019 for sex trafficking. He was found dead in his jail cell on 10 August of that year; authorities determined that he hanged himself.

Maxwell was sentenced in June 2022 to 20 years imprisonment. She has maintained her innocence and is appealing her conviction.

Asked for comment on the documents’ unsealing, Maxwell’s attorneys, Arthur L Aidala and Diana Fabi Samson, said: “Ghislaine Maxwell took no position on the court’s recent decision to unseal documents in Giuffre v Maxwell as these disclosures have no bearing on her or her pending appeal.”

“Ghislaine’s focus is on the upcoming appellate argument asking for her entire case to dismissed,” they also said. “She is confident that she will obtain justice in the second circuit court of appeals. She has consistently and vehemently maintained her innocence.”

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Barbara is a writer and speaker who is passionate about mental health, overall wellness, and women's issues.

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Why Do People Ghost?

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What Does Ghosting Say About a Person?

Is ghosting emotional abuse.

Ghosting occurs when someone you are dating or getting to know disappears without a trace. This could happen at the very beginning of a relationship or in the middle of one, whether in person or online. Dealing with being ghosted is incredibly difficult—especially because you usually don't know the cause or know how to react.

The person suddenly quits all contact with you—they won’t respond to texts, emails, calls, or social media messages. The mental health effects of being on the receiving end of these actions can be very challenging.

Learn more about why people ghost and how to move forward if it happens to you or someone you know.

People ghost for a variety of reasons. Relationship experts and psychologists agree that people who ghost are avoiding an uncomfortable situation. This evasion, while perceived as a lack of regard, is often because they feel it’s the best way to handle their own distress or inability to clearly communicate .

Ghosters themselves admit they don’t want to hurt you or they don’t know what to do. Sometimes they don’t think discussing a situation was necessary or they became scared. Ghosting is a passive way to withdraw.

But some ghosters perceive that to disappear completely might actually be the easiest and best way to handle the situation for all. Others ghost because now that it’s common, it’s an almost justifiable way to exit a relationship nowadays.

In today’s dating culture, being ghosted and ghosting is common.

How to Cope When You've Been Ghosted

It's not always easy, and it often takes time, but there are things you can do to start to feel better even if you've been ghosted by someone in your life.

Rid Yourself of Blame

After someone disappears suddenly, it’s hard to not feel regret, embarrassment and shame. After all, you risked for the sake of growth and it backfired. While ghosting feels so personal, it’s not about you. It’s about them.

Because you usually can’t find a cause and there is no explanation furnished, you may blame yourself. You might want to put up walls so you don’t get hurt again in the future. Or you may tell your friends you will stop dating completely, using a cognitive distortion like all-or-nothing thinking .

Now is the time to regroup, be kind to yourself and take a break. You are not to blame for someone walking away without a peep. Nor is it your fault that the other person couldn’t maturely give you the truth.

Nix the Shame

Shame comes about sometimes when we are reminded of previous rejections. But is ghosting rejection?

Meredith Gordon Resnick, LCSW

Ghosting carries an echo of old rejection. It's painful because it activates—and emulates—a previous hurt or betrayal by someone we didn't just think we could trust but whom we had to trust, often during our formative years. Here's the catch: It's not necessarily about the betrayal but about our not having processed and integrated that early memory, and what it meant to us.

Resnick, whose trauma-informed books about recovery from the effects of narcissistic relationships have helped tens of thousands of readers, reassures those who were ghosted and bids them to take care.

“Understood this way, we can see why self-compassion is in order,” she says. “Being dropped and feeling unseen is always painful, and there is never shame or embarrassment in feeling what is real.”

Choose Self-Care

How do you move forward? You need self-compassion and self-care. Invest in time with friends and family who can support you. Also, you might indulge in activities that make you happy like taking a yoga class or returning to a hobby that you love. You can also try homeopathic treatments or acupuncture.

Elena Klimenko, MD, and Integrative Medicine Specialist sometimes uses a "broken heart" homeopathic treatment for a heartfelt loss . She says, “In traditional Chinese medicine like acupuncture, the heart meridian—which starts at the heart and runs to the armpits, then down each arm—is responsible for heartfelt matters and some deep emotions. Proper acupuncture treatment can also facilitate recovery and take the edge off the difficult feelings."

When you think of the ghoster, be sure to reframe your ideas about them and the relationship. After all, they violated the contract of what it takes to be in a mature, healthy relationship. That includes mutual respect, good communication and thoughtfulness. Therefore, this wasn’t the right person for you, anyway.

Build Resilience

David C. Leopold, MD DABFM, DABOIM, and Network Medical Director for Integrative Health and Medicine at Hackensack Meridian Health says, “When patients experience any emotional or mental health challenges, I focus on helping them build resilience and enhancing their self-compassion and self-care."

Dr. Leopold uses a comprehensive approach, including engaging in physical activity, prioritizing sleep, optimizing nutrition, cultivating meaning and purpose, and, reducing stress through practices like mindfulness and meditation.” 

Therefore, if you’re emotionally exhausted and stressed, where do you start in taking care of yourself? “Multiple studies clearly show that eating healthy improves mental health—reducing stress, anxiety and even depression. And any form of exercise, even just walking, is a potent natural anti-depressant,” says Leopold. 

If you’re ruminating too much, use an app to increase mindfulness or begin a meditation practice . Leopold suggests you don’t forget about finding meaning and purpose. “Studies show focusing on meaning and purpose increases oxytocin, our 'feel good' hormone, which increases feelings of connection and improves mood.” Overall, he advises that you take this time “as an opportunity to focus on you and enriching your resilience.”

Despite ghosting being normalized, it's more about the problem the ghoster is having than it is about you. Ghosting says a lot about the person in many different ways. For instance, it could say that they lacked the courage to do the right thing by explaining why they could no longer continue a relationship with you.

The person or people who ghosted you didn’t treat you with integrity, therefore, did not consider the implications of their actions. It could also signal that they may not care about their actions and are inconsiderate or unreliable.

Or, it could be none of the above. The ghoster may be dealing with a mental health or medical condition (of a loved one or their own) that is making it difficult for them to reach out at the current time.

Whatever the case may be, being ghosted is not a reflection on you or your worthiness. Nor should it render you powerless.

Ghosting is a form of silent treatment, which mental health professionals have described as emotional cruelty or even emotional abuse if done so intentionally. You feel powerless and silenced. You don't know to make sense of the experience or have an opportunity to express your feelings.

This cowardly act, unfortunately pretty normalized by our culture, can cause immense pain. As you have no clue about what happened, your mind first jumps to many possibilities. Was your new love interest injured in a car accident? Is their family okay? Maybe it’s just a crazy busy time at work and they will contact you again soon? 

You might feel a wave of different emotions: sadness, anger , loneliness , confusion. Mental health professionals find that no response is especially painful for people on an emotional level. You feel helpless and shunned without information that could guide your understanding.

Being ghosted might result in exhibiting a variety of negative emotions and questioning yourself. Don't play the blame and shame game. Hold your head up high, hold onto your dignity, and let them go. Someone better could be out there looking for you.

Practice self-care and build your resilience during this painful time. If you’re still struggling to cope after being ghosted by a romantic interest, a friend, or someone in the workplace, reach out to a doctor or a mental health professional for assistance.

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Why People Ghost — and How to Get Over It

Time to go ghostbusting.

By Adam Popescu

Something strange happened at the coffee shop the other day. The gentleman in line in front of me — mid-40s, suit, bad haircut — ordered a latte. “Whole milk,” he said before changing to half and half, then almond milk. “For here,” he mumbled, then shook his head. “No. To go.”

I ordered an espresso. Our drinks arrived at the same time and I picked up mine, added sugar, sat, sipped. The latte remained at the counter, the barista calling his name over and over. But the man in the suit was gone. Why would someone order a drink and disappear?

Ghosting — when someone cuts off all communication without explanation — extends to all things, it seems. Most of us think about it in the context of digital departure: a friend not responding to a text, or worse, a lover, but it happens across all social circumstances and it’s tied to the way we view the world.

Asking for a beverage and then jetting may not seem equal to ditching an unwanted romance, but it’s really the same behavior. Uncomfortable? Just don’t respond. A ghost is a specter, something we think is there but really isn’t. We’ve all probably acted like this if we’re honest. We’ve all probably been ghosted, too, though sometimes we probably didn’t notice. These are supernatural times.

Last week, my sister and I got in an argument and her boyfriend didn’t text me back — a micro-ghost move.

“There are different levels of ghosting,” said Wendy Walsh, a psychology professor named one of Time’s 2017 people of the year for her whistle blowing that helped promote the #MeToo movement. My sister’s boyfriend is what Dr. Walsh calls lightweight ghosting. Midweight is when you’ve met a person a handful of times and you engage in deep avoidance , which hurts their feelings more. “Third wave is the heavyweight, when you’ve entered a sexual relationship and you leave, blindsiding the other.”

The pace of modern life makes it hard enough to maintain real life friendships; it’s impossible to actually be friends with everyone you’re supposedly simpatico with online. (Here’s a good test: How many of your Facebook friends are real? If you’ve met someone once and now they’re on your feed for life, get rid of them! If a friendship feels like too much work, maybe it is. The good ones shouldn’t feel like a chore on your to-do list, or that one side is doing all the communicating). Sometimes the best course is to let someone go, even if you were once close. Growing apart can be a friendship’s natural evolution; ditto for lovers, an even touchier discourse. But it’s the way you let go that matters.

Belief, destiny and growth

Studies have shown that social rejection of any kind activates the same pain pathways in the brain as physical pain, meaning there’s a biological link between rejection and pain. That goes for friends, partners and, if it had feelings, that lonely latte.

Staying connected to others has evolved as a human survival skill. Our brains have what’s called a social monitoring system that uses mood, people and environmental cues to coach us how to respond situationally. But when you get ghosted, there’s no closure, so you question yourself and choices which sabotages self-worth and self-esteem.

That ambiguity, said the psychologist Jennice Vilhauer , is the real dagger. She calls ghosting a form of the silent treatment akin to emotional cruelty (the pain it causes can be treated with Tylenol, according to multiple studies ). So, how do you avoid it in the first place?

“Well, I think I’m particularly choosy about who I tend to interact with,” said Dr. Vilhauer, the former head of Los Angeles’ Cedars-Sinai Medical Center psychotherapy program. “You can get a sense early on of what kind of individual you’re dealing with.”

There’s no checklist, but watching how people treat others is a good indicator.

“Ghosting has a lot to do with someone’s comfort level and how they deal with their emotions,” she added. “A lot of people anticipate that talking about how they feel is going to be a confrontation. That mental expectation makes people want to avoid things that make them uncomfortable.”

When it comes to complex relationships, the ease and sheer volume of choice is making us numb emotionally, Dr. Vilhauer said.

“In the dating world where people are meeting a lot of people outside of their social circles, that creates a level of feeling that you don’t have a lot of accountability if you ghost someone,” she said. “Their friends don’t know your friends so it’s easy to do if you’re never going to run into them again in real life.”

What we really want

According to Dr. Vilhauer, who is in a long-term relationship that began on a dating site, the flip side is a subset of the population looking for real connection.

“People are craving authenticity,” she said. For those looking for love in online emotional echo chambers, “the more you date, the more it feels unsuccessful, the more you get discouraged.”

She added: “Being vulnerable is the number one thing that creates intimacy between people and if you worry about being hurt all the time, you’re not able to be vulnerable and it affects the quality of connection.”

That fear is the same thing causing so much ghosting, said Gili Freedman , who studies the language of rejections at St. Mary’s College of Maryland. One eyebrow-raising tip she offers when you’ve made a mistake and ghosted someone is to not say “Sorry .” Why, I wondered? It only makes the injured party feel more aggrieved, she said.

In a 2018 paper , Dr. Freedman discovered ghosting has a lot to do with how we feel about our future — or whether we think our mate is the “one,” which is a question of belief versus destiny. Either someone believes the relationship is capable of growing or they’re seeking an archetypal partner (what’s typically called a soul mate).

“Individuals who have stronger destiny beliefs are more likely to ghost,” she said. “If you’re with someone and you realize they’re not the one for me, you’re going to think it’s not much of a point to put in the effort, so you ghost. These people believe relationships are either going to work out or not.”

Those with less of a fixed mind-set exhibit fewer feelings of helplessness and express themselves in conflicts with romantic partners.

Her work’s most counterintuitive finding?

“People seemed to think it was more acceptable to ghost in a friendship than a romantic relationship regardless of destiny of growth belief,” Dr. Freedman said. “We think of friendship as these long lasting relationships that provide social support and it’s interesting to think people are saying it’s a little better if you do it in a friendship. How you look at relationships affects how you look at ghosting.”


“It’s really important to remember if someone ghosts you that behavior says more about them than you,” Dr. Vilhauer said. “It’s about their discomfort. You have to keep trying.”

One way to avoid this cycle is modifying how we reject people, suggests Dr. Freedman.

Don’t apologize, she said, but be honest about boundaries, whether it’s going to a movie with someone or spending the rest of your life together. Just be real.

“The good middle ground is explicitly rejecting someone and telling them ‘no,’ not ‘I’m sorry,’” she said.

It may sound harsh, but it’s better than being left in limbo. That may be why so many daters don’t get the hint and keep texting. That ostracism leads to rage, frustration and further alienation.

“If you’re apologizing, you’re enforcing a social norm and if you say ‘sorry,’ it’s very normal to say ‘that’s O.K., I forgive you,’” she said.

Taking a risk to tell someone how you really feel — even if it’s not what they want to hear — has benefits. Self-esteem, stress, blood pressure, spending more time with people you care about. And getting that time back opens up self-discovery. Maybe you’ll find what makes you most fulfilled is nature , which promotes alpha brain waves, fuels creativity and reduces depression (my personal fix).

Perspective can be a good path to empathy, Dr. Walsh said. Our always-on culture has eroded a lot of empathy, which is why we find ourselves stepping on each others’ feelings. Yet for all the choice, we’re all still seeking connections. The power of the internet and its ease in upsetting our lives is only poised to grow. It’s how we use this intoxicant that will determine its impact.

“We are wired to bond,” Dr. Walsh said. “The phenomenon of love, our greatest drug and delusion evolved for two people to get together and have offspring. The great survivors will be the ones who still figure out love.”

Adam Popescu is a Los Angeles writer whose debut novel, “ Nima ,” based on his BBC reporting from Mount Everest, publishes in May. Follow him @ adampopescu .

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Jeffrey Epstein list: Who is named in court filings?

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Bill Clinton, Prince Andrew, Michael Jackson

The names of dozens of people connected to the late sex offender Jeffrey Epstein were made public with the release of court documents. Who are they?

Public figures including Prince Andrew and former US President Bill Clinton are among the associates, friends and alleged victims named in the 900 pages unsealed on the order of a judge in New York.

Both the former US president and the British royal deny any knowledge of Epstein's crimes.

Many names in the documents are mentioned in passing as part of various legal proceedings, and their inclusion does not suggest wrongdoing related to Epstein.

They contain no major new allegations about Epstein nor revelations about his associates.

Epstein took his own life in jail in 2019 while awaiting trial. His friend and former girlfriend Ghislaine Maxwell is serving 20 years in prison for child sex trafficking.

Who is now named in the documents?

Prince Andrew

The court papers include the testimony of Johanna Sjoberg who describes meeting Prince Andrew at Epstein's home in New York in 2001

Her statement, which had previously been partly revealed, describes an encounter in which she claims Prince Andrew touched her breast.

Ms Sjoberg, then aged 20, had been at college when she had been recruited by Maxwell, initially she believed as an assistant before finding that she was encouraged to deliver sexual massages for Epstein, which she resisted.

  • What do documents say about Prince Andrew?

Prince Andrew has rejected any wrongdoing, including in his later settlement with Ms Giuffre in 2022.

In that settlement Prince Andrew had said he "regrets his association with Epstein, and commends the bravery of Ms Giuffre and other survivors in standing up for themselves and others".

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Bill Richardson

In her deposition, Ms Giuffre says she was forced to have sex with prominent figures including New Mexico Governor Bill Richardson.

Before his death last year, Mr Richardson denied ever meeting Ms Giuffre, and he was not charged with any crime

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Bill Clinton

The former US president is mentioned a number of times but there is no suggestion of any criminality.

Johanna Sjoberg, one of Prince Andrew's accusers, testified that Epstein told her that Mr Clinton "likes them young, referring to girls".

Another woman, Virginia Giuffre, who brought the lawsuit at the heart of these court documents, also mentions the American politician several times.

Although she makes no allegations against Mr Clinton, she was trying to get him to testify under oath about his relationship with Epstein, describing him as a "key person".

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She had previously said Mr Clinton visited Mr Epstein's private island but in the court documents both Maxwell and Epstein dispute this. There is also no record in pilot logs of Mr Clinton going there.

Mr Clinton himself has said he flew on Epstein's plane four times, including twice to Africa, because they worked together on humanitarian projects.

But those meetings took place before the financier came under investigation, he said, and he had no knowledge of his crimes.

Donald Trump

The document also includes testimony about Donald Trump from Ms Sjoberg about a diversion Epstein's plane made to New Jersey to visit the businessman in 2001 at one of his casinos.

When pilots said their plane could not land in New York and would need to stop in Atlantic City, Epstein said he would call up Trump and drop by to see him, she said.

The documents contain no alleged wrongdoing by Mr Trump.

Ms Sjoberg is asked whether she ever gave Mr Trump a massage and she said she did not.

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Michael Jackson

Ms Sjoberg said she had met the singer through Epstein, although she did not allege any wrongdoing by him.

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Why Ghosting Hurts So Much

Ghosting says nothing about your worthiness for love..

Posted November 27, 2015 | Reviewed by Lybi Ma

  • Ghosting means one person cuts off contact with another after a period of friendship or dating, usually to avoid one's own emotional discomfort.
  • Ghosting upsets the one ghosted because people are wired to regulate their emotions partly through social cues from others.
  • Those with low self-esteem can take longer to get over ghosting because they have less natural opioid released into the brain after a rejection.

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The opposite of love isn’t hate; it's indifference. Ghosting , for those of you who haven’t yet experienced it, is having someone that you believe cares about you, whether it be a friend or someone you are dating , disappear from contact without any explanation at all. No phone call or email, not even a text.

Ghosting isn’t new—people have long engaged in disappearing acts—but years ago this kind of behavior was considered limited to a certain type of scoundrel. In today’s dating culture being ghosted is a phenomenon that approximately 50 percent of men and women have experienced—and an almost equal number have done the ghosting. 1 Despite how common ghosting is, the emotional effects can be devastating, and particularly damaging to those who already have fragile self-esteem .

Why do people ghost?

People who ghost are primarily focused on avoiding their own emotional discomfort and they aren’t thinking about how it makes the other person feel. The lack of mutual social connections for people who met online also means there are fewer social consequences of dropping out of another’s life. The more it happens, either to themselves or their friends, the more people become desensitized to it, and the more likely they are to do it to someone else.

  • “I didn't understand exactly how I actually felt at the time, so instead of trying to talk it out, I ghosted.” 2
  • “I used to disappear when it was all I thought it was [a fling], or I got scared of finding what I wanted… Or some kind of fear factor from a past relationship kicks in.” 2
  • “Looking through the lens of a coward, passive withdrawal from dating seems like the easiest and nicest route… until it’s done to you.” 3
  • “I kind of think that it's part of what makes the online dating scene so appealing. Since you don't have friends in common or weren't introduced through some other channel, it's not the end of the world if you just drop off the face of the earth.” 4
  • “I, for one, consider myself to be an honest and straightforward person. And yet I’ve ghosted... And I’ve told myself, time and time again, that it’s all the fault of the toxic dating culture we’ve created. And at the end of the day, I think that’s what we’re all telling ourselves.” 5

How does it feel to be ghosted?

For many people, ghosting can result in feelings of being disrespected, used, and disposable. If you have known the person beyond more than a few dates then it can be even more traumatic . When someone we love and trust disengages from us it feels like a very deep betrayal.

  • “I felt like an idiot. Like I had been played a fool. And more so I felt disrespected. Take the romantics away, to have a great connection with a new friend and then all of a sudden never hear from them again? That’s painful and really disappointing. No one deserves to be blown off.” 6
  • “It still felt a bit like someone had punched me in the gut when it happened. The disregard is insulting. The lack of closure is maddening. You move on, but not before your self-esteem takes a hit. The only thing worse than being broken up with is realizing that someone didn’t even consider you worth breaking up with.” 7
  • “Going from texting every day and seeing each other a couple of times a week to nothing without the slightest hint of why was a kick in the gut.” 8
  • “Ghosting is one of the cruelest forms of torture dating can serve up.” 9

Why does it feel so bad?

Social rejection activates the same pain pathways in the brain as physical pain. 10 In fact, you can reduce the emotional pain of rejection with a pain medication like Tylenol. 11 But in addition to this biological link between rejection and pain, there are some specific factors about ghosting that contribute to psychological distress.

Ghosting gives you no cue for how to react. It creates the ultimate scenario of ambiguity. Should you be worried? What if they are hurt and lying in a hospital bed somewhere? Should you be upset? Maybe they are just a little busy and will be calling you at any moment. You don’t know how to react because you don’t really know what has happened. Staying connected to others is so important to our survival that our brain has evolved to have a social monitoring system that scans the environment for cues so that we know how to respond in social situations. 12 Social cues allow us to regulate our own behavior accordingly, but ghosting deprives you of these usual cues and can create a sense of emotional dysregulation where you feel out of control.

One of the most insidious aspects of ghosting is that it doesn’t just cause you to question the validity of the relationship you had, it causes you to question yourself. Why didn’t I see this coming? How could I have been such a poor judge of character? What did I do to cause this? How do I protect myself from this ever happening again? This self-questioning is the result of basic psychological systems that are in place to monitor one’s social standing and relay that information back to the person via feelings of self-worth and self-esteem. When a rejection occurs your self-esteem can drop, which social psychologists propose is meant to be a signal that your social belonging is low. 13 If you have been through multiple ghostings or if your self-esteem is already low, you are likely to experience the rejection as even more painful, and it may take you longer to get over it as people with lower-self-esteem have less natural opioid (painkiller) released into the brain after a rejection when compared with those whose self-esteem is higher. 14

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Ghosting is the ultimate use of the silent treatment, a tactic that has often been viewed by mental health professionals as a form of emotional cruelty. 15 It essentially renders you powerless and leaves you with no opportunity to ask questions or be provided with information that would help you emotionally process the experience. It silences you and prevents you from expressing your emotions and being heard, which is important for maintaining your self-esteem.

Regardless of the ghoster’s intent, ghosting is a passive-aggressive interpersonal tactic that can leave psychological bruises and scars.

How do you move forward?

The important thing to remember is that when someone ghosts you, it says nothing about you or your worthiness for love and everything about the person doing the ghosting. It shows he or she doesn’t have the courage to deal with the discomfort of their emotions or yours, and they either don't understand the impact of their behavior or worse don’t care. In any case, they have sent you an extremely loud message that says: "I don’t have what it takes to have a mature healthy relationship with you." Be the better person, retain your dignity, and let him or her go peacefully.

Don’t allow someone else’s bad behavior to rob you of a better future by losing your vulnerability and shutting yourself off from another relationship. Keep your energy focused on doing what makes you happy. Know that if you are someone who treats people with respect and integrity then the ghoster simply wasn’t on your wavelength and someone better is coming your way, as long as you keep your heart open and your focus forward.

For more, see " When Is It OK to Ghost Someone? "








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Ghosting can have a significant emotional impact on the person who experiences it. This behavior often says more about the ghoster than it does about the person who is being ghosted.

Ghosting is generally considered to be an unkind and passive-aggressive way of ending communication or a relationship as it can leave the other party confused, hurt, and questioning what went wrong.

While there might be exceptional cases where safety concerns or extreme circumstances warrant cutting off contact abruptly, in most situations, it’s more respectful and considerate to communicate openly and honestly.

Ghosting behavior is often a result of communication issues, emotional immaturity, lack of empathy, fear of commitment, aversion to conflict, and/or avoidant behavior.

Colorful illustration shows a person who suffer a patter of avoiding emotionally intimate relationships. Concept shows a trap with red heart as a bait.

What Does It Mean to Ghost Someone

To “ghost” someone means to abruptly cut off contact with them without warning or explanation. Ghosting can involve various actions that essentially cut off all forms of communication, including ignoring phone calls, not responding to text messages, blocking on social media, and avoiding in-person contact.

You may have gone on several dates with someone, and then you suddenly stop responding to their texts and calls, effectively ending the budding relationship without explanation.

Or, you might have been interacting online with another person for a while and then you intentionally begin to ignore their messages and discontinue communication.

When you ghost someone, you essentially disappear from their life without explanation or communication, becoming like a “ghost.”

Why Do People Ghost?

People choose to ghost for a variety of reasons, though most of these reasons stem from a desire to avoid confrontation, discomfort, or difficult conversations.

On a basic level, someone might ghost because they:

  • Lose interest in a relationship or connection
  • Meet someone else
  • Perceive the relationship as not being serious or significant

However, on a deeper level, ghosting usually comes from a fear of confrontation, commitment, and conflict.

Confrontational situations, including breaking up, rejecting someone, or addressing conflicts, can be uncomfortable. Ghosting provides an escape from these challenging conversations and offers a way to sidestep potential arguments or disagreements.

Here are detailed explanations of why people may choose to ghost:

Fear of Confrontation

Fear of confrontation is a significant psychological factor that often contributes to the choice of ghosting. Confrontation involves facing uncomfortable or difficult conversations, and for many people, these situations can trigger feelings of anxiety, stress, and unease.

Confrontation often requires some level of conflict resolution and communication skills.

Childhood experiences and past traumas can significantly influence an individual’s approach to conflict, communication, and confrontation. If someone grew up in an environment where conflict was consistently avoided or poorly managed, they might internalize the belief that any form of conflict or confrontation is bad and should be avoided.

Or, if someone experiences an abusive relationship, they might associate confrontation with danger or negative consequences and develop a strong aversion to any form of conflict.

Some individuals naturally cope with stress by avoiding situations that make them uncomfortable. Ghosting offers a way to quickly escape confrontation and bypass the discomfort associated with it.

Communication Issues

For some, communication issues can play a significant role in the choice to ghost.

Communication skills are essential for expressing emotions, setting boundaries, and navigating relationships effectively. When someone struggles with communication, they might resort to ghosting as a way to avoid the challenges associated with expressing themselves.

Communication issues can be rooted in a person’s upbringing and childhood experiences. When someone grows up in an environment where open expression of emotions was discouraged or met with negative responses, it can greatly influence their ability to communicate effectively in their adult relationships.

If expressing emotions was met with ridicule, punishment, or dismissal in the past, a person might fear that the same will happen in their current relationships.

Communication issues and the fear of confrontation are often intertwined and can reinforce each other.

If someone has a strong fear of confrontation, they might avoid difficult conversations altogether. This avoidance can result in poor communication habits, as they may opt for silence or evasive responses instead of addressing issues openly.

On the flip side, struggling with communication can heighten the fear of confrontation. When someone feels unsure about their ability to express themselves clearly and effectively, they might worry that confrontational conversations will lead to negative outcomes.

Emotional Immaturity

Emotional immaturity — a lack of emotional awareness, regulation, and understanding — can play a significant role in one’s choice to ghost.

When someone is emotionally immature, they might struggle to navigate complex emotions and handle relationships in a healthy and respectful manner.

They may struggle to process and understand their own emotions, making it difficult for them to communicate their feelings to others. Or, they may struggle to navigate disagreements or differences, and instead choose to avoid conflict through ghosting.

An emotionally immature person may also ghost someone to avoid taking responsibility for their actions or to get out of an uncomfortable situation.

Emotional immaturity can lead to a focus on short-term desires and discomfort avoidance, rather than considering the potential long-term effects of their actions.

Low Empathy

When someone has low empathy, they might struggle to truly grasp the emotional impact of their actions on others, making it easier for them to ghost without considering the hurt it can cause.

People with low empathy might have difficulty forming strong emotional connections with others, which can lead them to be less sensitive to the feelings of those they interact with.

Low empathy can also be associated with a more self-centered perspective, so some individuals might prioritize their own comfort over the feelings of others. They might struggle to see situations from another person’s point of view or to consider how their actions impact a person’s emotions.

Research has found that individuals who score high on callousness, which is a lack of empathy and disregard for the feelings of others, are more likely to endorse and use ghosting as a strategy to end a relationship.

Commitment Issues

Ghosting might be seen as an easier way to end interactions without having to confront their fears of commitment.

People with commitment issues might fear being vulnerable and opening themselves up to emotional intimacy. They might feel overwhelmed by the prospect of this intimacy and choose ghosting as a way to escape it.

Commitment issues can stem from a strong desire for independence and autonomy or from negative past experiences, such as heartbreak, abandonment, or childhood trauma.

Individuals with commitment issues might focus on short-term desires and gratification rather than considering the potential benefits of a long-term relationship. Commitment often comes with thoughts about the future, so ghosting can be a way to avoid these serious conversations and satisfy immediate comfort.

A person’s mindset, or their mental attitude and approach to situations, can greatly influence how they handle relationships and communication challenges.

Research (e.g., Freedman et al., 2018) found that certain mindsets and attitudes toward relationships make certain individuals more likely to ghost than others.

A fixed mindset in the context of relationships refers to the belief that relationships are static and predetermined; these individuals believe a relationship is either meant to work out naturally or is destined to fail.

On the other hand, a growth mindset in relationships acknowledges that relationships require effort, communication, and continuous development and can evolve over time.

Freedman et al. (2018) found that participants with a fixed mindset were 63% more likely to endorse ghosting as an acceptable way to end a relationship, whereas people with a growth mindset were 38% less likely to think that ghosting is acceptable.

Additionally, if someone has an avoidance mindset or a fear-based mindset, they might prioritize avoiding discomfort or conflict over addressing issues directly. Ghosting can be seen as a way to protect oneself from these fears and avoid challenging conversations.


In some cases, ghosting is a method of self-protection.

Self-protection, in this context, refers to the act of safeguarding one’s emotional well-being or sense of security, often by avoiding potentially uncomfortable or difficult conversations.

They may fear facing rejection, criticism, or negative reactions from the other person.

Ghosting can also be used in situations where there are valid concerns for personal safety, boundaries, or emotional well-being. In cases of abuse, whether emotional, psychological, or physical, ghosting can be a way for the victim to extricate themselves from the relationship without directly confronting the abuser.

Similarly, individuals who have experienced negative outcomes from previous relationship discussions might use ghosting as a strategy to prevent similar pain.

Attachment Style

Different attachment styles can impact how someone handles separation, closeness, and communication in relationships.

People with an avoidant attachment style tend to value independence and self-sufficiency. These individuals might struggle with emotional intimacy, and thus use ghosting to distance themselves without confronting emotional closeness.

People with a fearful-avoidant attachment style have mixed feelings about close relationships. They desire emotional intimacy but fear getting hurt, so ghosting might be used to protect themselves from potential pain.

According to Powell et al. (2021) , “Ghosting is a relationship dissolution strategy that is a modern-day manifestation of avoidance-withdrawal.”

Those with an anxious attachment style often seek high levels of emotional closeness and validation. Ghosting can trigger their anxieties, as they might interpret it as rejection or abandonment, leading to heightened distress.

Lastly, those with a disorganized attachment style might struggle with confusion and inconsistency in relationships due to unresolved trauma or inconsistent caregiving. Ghosting might occur as a response to feelings of confusion or emotional turmoil.

How Does the Ghoster Feel After Ghosting?

How a person feels after ghosting can vary depending on their personality, the context of the relationship, their emotional state, and their reasons for ghosting.

In some cases, the person might feel a sense of relief after ghosting, especially if they were avoiding a difficult conversation or an uncomfortable situation.

Others may experience feelings of guilt or shame, especially if the person realizes that their actions might have hurt or confused the other person.

Many individuals, specifically those with narcissistic traits, probably do not feel much after ghosting. They may even experience a sense of pride or a perceived sense of control from ghosting someone. They might believe that by abruptly ending the connection, they’ve asserted their power over the situation.

However, after some time has passed, some ghosters might reflect on their decision and feel regret for not handling the situation more maturely or compassionately.

What to Say Instead of Ghosting Someone

Instead of ghosting someone, it’s important to approach the situation with empathy, honesty, and respect. Communicating openly can help both parties understand the reasons behind the decision and provide closure.

The best approach is to simply be honest. Explain your feelings, concerns, or reasons for wanting to end the communication while remaining kind and considerate in your delivery.

If there were positive aspects of the interaction, you can express gratitude for the time you spent together and the experiences you shared.

Make sure to recognize that the other person might have feelings, too, by acknowledging their emotions as a result of the ending of the interaction.

If boundary issues were a concern, communicate your need for space or distance and explain that you’re setting these boundaries for your well-being. If appropriate, offer closure by giving a brief explanation for your decision, as this can help the other person understand your point of view.

Here is a sample message:

“I wanted to have an open and honest conversation with you. Over the time we’ve spent talking, I’ve realized that I need to focus on some personal matters and take some time for myself. I want to be transparent about this decision rather than disappearing, as you deserve an explanation. I’ve appreciated our conversations and the connection we’ve had. I hope you understand, and I wish you all the best.”

How Does Ghosting Affect Others?

Ghosting can have significant emotional, psychological, and relational effects on the person who is being ghosted.

Ghosting often leaves the person feeling confused about what happened and why the communication abruptly ended. They might replay past interactions, trying to make sense of the sudden silence.

Being ghosted can lead to feelings of hurt and rejection. The person might wonder if they did something wrong or if they were not valued by the ghoster.

This can also negatively affect one’s self-esteem and self-worth as they might question their desirability or worthiness of meaningful relationships. 

Ghosting can also lead to anxiety, trust issues, doubt, and emotional baggage that can affect other aspects of a person’s life and future relationships.

Why Is It Easy to Ghost Someone?

Ghosting can sometimes feel like an easier option in certain situations because it enables you to avoid confrontation and any uncomfortable, anxiety-inducing conversations.

Ghosting provides an immediate way to end communication without having to explain oneself or deal with the immediate aftermath of a breakup.

It allows a person to avoid taking responsibility for their actions or the impact of their behavior on the other person.

Ghosting has been more normalized today as the ease of digital communication allows for quick disconnection without having to face the person directly.

When Can It Be Acceptable to Ghost Someone?

Ghosting is generally considered a hurtful and ineffective way of ending a relationship or communication; however, there can be situations where it might be more understandable or even acceptable.

A few situations where ghosting might be more understandable include: – If someone is in an abusive or potentially dangerous situation. – If the other person is exhibiting stalking behavior or harassment. – If someone is in a relationship with someone who consistently manipulates, guilt-trips, or emotionally harms them. – If the person repeatedly disrespects their boundaries and ignores their requests to be left alone.

Is Ghosting a Toxic Behavior?

Yes, ghosting is generally considered a form of toxic behavior in interpersonal relationships.

Ghosting shows a lack of consideration for the other person’s emotions and well-being. It can be hurtful and confusing and can make others feel disregarded, devalued, and hurt.

Healthy relationships are built on respect and consideration for one another. Ghosting breaks down this foundation by disregarding the need for open and honest communication.

Why Do I Ghost Someone When I Like Them?

Ghosting someone you like can be due to fear of vulnerability, past traumas, uncertainty about their feelings, or concerns about compatibility.

It’s a defense mechanism to avoid potential pain or rejection. Communication and self-awareness can help address these fears.

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What is ghosting and what does it mean when someone ghosts you? The dating term explained

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  • Updated : 12:46, 8 Nov 2023

HAVE you ever been messaging someone for a few months, spent hours together, created memories, then out of the blue, they stopped texting you?

Sorry to break it to you, but may have been ghosted - here's the lowdown.

 Ghosting is a term used in dating which is becoming more and more common - here's what we know

What is ghosting and what does it mean when someone 'ghosts' you?

Ghosting is an expression used in dating terms and it's when someone suddenly cuts all ties and communication with the person they've been seeing.

To put it simply, ghosting is basically rejection without the closure.

The theory behind it is that the person who is being ignored will just "get the hint" and realise their partner is not interested in dating anymore so the subject should be left.

Anyone can be a ghoster, it's not specific to either gender, but people sometimes find the behaviour is related to a person's maturity and communication skills.

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Many believe that ghosting is actually better for the person they're ignoring because they aren't hurting their feelings by telling them they don't want to date anymore.

While the ghoster may benefit from avoiding an uncomfortable situation and any potential drama, they’ve done nothing to improve their own conversation and relationship skills for the future and often leaves the ghostee feeling confused and upset about the subject.

According to Fortune , a huge 80% of us in the UK have experienced ghosting in our dating lifetimes.

"Ghosting is inevitably part of the dating journey, and since sparks won’t fly with every match or date, it’s often the go-to method of ending things when you’ve only shared a conversation or a couple of dates,” said Eva Gallagher, the resident dating expert at the dating app, Plenty of Fish .

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Where did the dating term come from.

Ghosting isn’t necessarily new although the word itself didn't become popular till early 2010.

In 2015, online tabloids ran headlines about how Charlize Theron "ghosted" Sean Penn, the New York Times even wrote an explainer on the term, calling it "the ultimate silent treatment."

Merriam-Webster added the term to the dictionary in 2017.

The term was coined from the online dating culture we have today.

Since 2012, dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Elite Singles and Happn have become a lot more popular and they all give the impression that there are plenty of fish in the sea.

How does it affect people?

While some might react to ghosting with mild annoyance, for others it can cut a whole lot deeper.

Ghosting can actually have quite a serious impact on a person's mental health, claims PsychologyToday.com. 

The social rejection apparently can activate the same pain in the brain as physical pain, fortunately, this pain can be treated with medication but the psychological distress can be more difficult to heal.

It can affect your self-esteem and negatively impact your current and future relationships, both romantic and otherwise.

Mental health professionals argue that the silent treatment is a form of emotional cruelty as it leaves you powerless to the situation and you're unable to find out any answers.

The first thing you should remember, whether you’ve been ghosted or are the ghost in question, is the so-called golden rule: treat others how you would want to be treated.

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While ghosting is the easiest way out of a relationship, it is also the harshest - when someone ends a relationship this way it will show their true colours and intentions.

So, next time you're thinking of ghosting anyone, think carefully about what you're doing.

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The Meaning Behind The Song: Ghost in the Mirror by Mallory Knox


As a fan of Mallory Knox, I have always been captivated by their emotionally charged lyrics and intense melodies. One song that particularly stands out to me is “Ghost in the Mirror” from their 2014 album, Asymmetry. This hauntingly beautiful track not only showcases the band’s musical prowess but also carries a deep and introspective meaning.

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The Ghost in the Mirror

The lyrics, “There’s a ghost in the mirror, I feel it creeping into your head, Claims another victim,” paint a vivid picture of someone haunted by their own thoughts and fears. It portrays a sense of inner turmoil and the struggle to escape the grip of negativity. This ghost symbolizes the lingering doubts and insecurities that can plague our minds, sometimes leading to self-destruction.

The lines, “And when the hatred rises up, do you wish I had been there? And there’s a ghost in the mirror, I feel it creeping up beneath me, Holding onto my tongue,” further emphasize the overwhelming presence of negativity. These words convey a profound longing for someone to be there as support, as well as the feeling of being suffocated and unable to speak up or express oneself.

The Battle Within

Mallory Knox continues to explore the internal struggle within the lyrics, “Could it be any clearer? And if the Devil ain’t a beast, He’s a bully to his loved ones.” This line suggests that the real demon lies within oneself—the self-critical thoughts, doubts, and the inner bully that takes a toll on personal relationships.

The Power of Love and Support

Amidst the darkness, the band injects a ray of hope in lines like, “And I’ll move the earth around to save you, And my head would have a heart attack, Without you, without you.” These lyrics speak of the unconditional love and support we can provide to one another. They highlight the profound impact that a strong support system can have in battling personal demons.

“Just drive, just drive,” they chant, urging us to persevere and keep pushing forward despite the ghost in the mirror. It signifies the importance of resilience and determination in the face of adversity.

A Reflection of Lost Love

The song takes a heartbreaking turn as it delves into lost love. The lyrics, “There’s a ghost in the mirror, And in the loneliest of nights, you can feel it coming closer, Should’ve known that the fear, Is gonna bury you beneath all the love that you held there,” portray the regret and pain of losing someone they deeply cared for. This reflection on lost love serves as another layer of depth within the song.

“Ghost in the Mirror” by Mallory Knox is a song that encapsulates the emotional rollercoaster of battling one’s inner demons and longing for love and support. The haunting lyrics and captivating melodies create a powerful experience for listeners. It serves as a reminder that even in our darkest moments, we possess the strength to overcome our fears and rise above the ghost in the mirror.

As I listen to this song, I am often reminded of my own struggles with self-doubt and fear. Mallory Knox’s music has provided me solace and a sense of belonging during difficult times. Their ability to capture and express intense emotions through their songs is truly remarkable. “Ghost in the Mirror” continues to resonate with me, serving as a reminder to confront my own ghosts and seek the support I need to move forward.

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How To Respond When You’re Ghosted

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Lately, there’s been a lot of talk about ghosting . Ghosting, in case you’re late to the party, is when someone you’ve been dating just ceases all communication with you and pretty much drops off the face of the planet. One day you can think everything is going well and you’re about ready to finally introduce the person you’re seeing to your parents, then suddenly they’re gone . There’s no goodbye, no explanation, or even the weak, “It’s not you, it’s me,” line; they’ve just vanished and in most cases there’s nothing you can do about it.

According to relationship expert Rachel Sussman, author of The Breakup Bible , technology is actually helping to make ghosting more common . You might think that having access to easily a dozen ways to contact someone would make ghosting harder to do, but it really isn’t. As Sussman explains, the fact that so many people meet people online, as opposed to through friends or family like the old days, when someone wants to split without saying a word they can, because there’s no one to hold them accountable for it. Without someone in common to point out just how cowardly it is to ghost, the ghoster (yes, we’re making that word now) can just disappear, leaving the person they ghosted wondering what the eff the did. Honestly, unless someone burned your house down, no one deserves to be ghosted . But having been ghosted, I might be a bit biased.

Since manners and etiquette are disappearing at an epic rate in our society, meaning there’s a good chance you’ll probably be ghosted at least once in your life, you might as well prepare now. Here are seven ways to respond when you’re ghosted.

1. Make Sure You’ve Legitimately Been Ghosted

Although some ghosting cases are clear as day , as in your “What do you want to do tonight?” text goes unanswered for weeks, others can be a little cloudy. Like maybe it goes from texting a few times a day to every other day, or long messages go to short one-word answers ― neither of which are fun and can lead you to freak out. But if you find yourself in that particular scenario, don't immediately assume you're being ghosted; it could just be that they person you're seeing is having a family issue and they don't want to get into it at the moment. Basically, before you call it ghosting, you want to make sure that that’s what it is and not something that else. No one wants to be accused of ghosting, when they're not a ghoster.

2. Call Them Out On It

In the one time I was ghosted, I called him out on it. After a couple weeks of trying to get in touch with him and being completely and totally ignored, I called him out on it ― via text, email, Twitter, and Facebook messenger. I wanted him to know that I knew what he was doing, and that it was cowardly, sh*tty, and wrong. Of course I didn’t get a response, but at least I was putting it out there and felt better by letting him know that I knew what he was up to.

3. Cease All Attempts At Contact

This is the hardest one to do, because I know you want to drown them in angry texts, emails, and even sit on their front stoop declaring to everyone who walks by, “A ghoster lives here! A jerk face ghoster lives here,” but don’t do it. As much as it may be difficult, you want to take the high road as much as you can. You don’t want to ever give them a reason to think that them ghosting you was a good idea.

4. Delete Everything Related To Them

Since technology is essentially to blame for this behavior , then technology is the first place you should go to rid yourself of them. Block their number, set their email address to spam, unfriend or block them on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and remove them from your contacts on whatever other apps you’re connected on ― all of it. You’re not just doing this so as to prevent yourself from reaching out and having the last word (which you will over and over again), but should they decide they want to be an adult and break-up properly or, even worse, have you in their life again, you don’t want to give them that opportunity. If someone ghosts you, they’re gone for good. You don’t give second chances to people like that.

5. Do Not Blame Yourself

Unless, as I mentioned above, you burned their house down, then you can’t fault yourself for their behavior. Don’t even waste your time trying to figure out what you did wrong, what you could have done differently, or anything that puts the blame on you. It’s not your fault that they’re immature, weak, and don’t have the ovaries to say to your face, like a damn adult, that they’d like to end things.

6. Be Grateful They’re Gone

You need to be sooo effing happy that they’re gone. You need to drink champagne, cheers your awesome life, and your even more awesome future with them. Someone who ghosts is someone you do not want in your life. If they can’t even breakup with someone properly, what else can't they do properly? You dodged a bullet when they ghosted you, so celebrate like crazy.

7. Have Yourself A Giggle

I cannot stress enough how important it is to laugh at all this, once the shock and anger have subsided, of course. Anyone who thinks ghosting is the best way to deal, or rather not deal with ending a relationship deserves to be laughed at, mocked, and ridiculed. So go ahead and have yourself a giggle, a laugh, or a delightfully wicked cackle. If this were a competition, you would have won, and winners always get the last laugh.

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What does 'lowkey' mean? The slang that helps you describe things subtly.

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Has someone ever called you the " GOAT "? They're not actually calling you an animal. Maybe someone made a statement that made you reply " smh ." Or you might be confused by these acronyms and Internet slang. 

With the fast-pace of digital spaces, it's hard to keep track of each and every example. But don't worry, we're here to help.

If someone says something is "lowkey," it could be a compliment. Here's a rundown on the slang term and how to use it.

What does 'lowkey' mean?

According to Merriam-Webster, " lowkey " is used to describe something to a limited or moderate degree. Unlike its converse "highkey," lowkey refers to something that is done subtly, secretly, modestly or quietly.

Lowkey can describe just about anything, such as someone's actions or emotions. If something is "lowkey," it is not dramatic, over-the-top or intense. It is done in a way that doesn't bring too much attention.

With this in mind, "lowkey" can be used as a compliment. Saying someone "lowkey" can mean they are calm, don't cause drama and usually keep to themselves.

The slang can also be stylized as "low-key."

How to use 'lowkey'

Here are some examples of how to use "lowkey":

  • "We're thinking about throwing a party on Friday, but don't tell too many people. It's going to be lowkey."
  • "She lowkey killed that new album."
  • "Are you hungry?" "Lowkey, you want to grab some food?"

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Jedi Force Ghosts Explained: Origin, Powers, Meaning & All Canon Reveals

Posted: December 31, 2023 | Last updated: January 1, 2024

  • Jedi Force Ghosts are a significant part of the Star Wars franchise, expanding the lore and appearing in various tie-ins.
  • Qui-Gon Jinn learned to become a Force Ghost by training with Force Priestesses and mastering the ability to appear after death.
  • Jedi must be fully committed to the light side to perceive Force Ghosts, while the Sith cannot become true Force Ghosts but can cheat death.

Star Wars canon has revealed more about Jedi Force Ghosts while maintaining a sense of mystery. Force Ghosts have been part of Star Wars since the beginning when Darth Vader cut down Obi-Wan Kenobi in A New Hope . Vader was visibly confused when Obi-Wan's body disappeared, and tie-in books and comics have expanded on this by revealing what Vader sensed through the Force. At the moment of Obi-Wan's death, as the aged Jedi Master became one with the Force, his presence drowned out everything else around Vader. Little wonder the Sith Lord was so shaken, with the comics confirming he later realized what this meant about Obi-Wan's fate.

Force Ghosts have become part of the Star Wars franchise's lore , expanded upon in movies, numerous canon tie-ins, and even the Obi-Wan Kenobi Disney+ TV show. Some of the greatest Jedi returned as Force Ghosts : Qui-Gon Jinn, Yoda, Anakin Skywalker, Luke Skywalker, and Leia Organa. Force Ghosts maintained the Jedi Order after Luke exiled himself to Ahch-To, with Leia receiving wisdom from Obi-Wan - wisdom she no doubt appreciated all the more given her past with the Jedi Master. Yoda's Force Ghost appeared to Luke towards the end of his life, offering typically cryptic teachings and proving at last that Force Ghosts can manipulate the physical world.

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How a jedi becomes a force ghost, a jedi must receive special training to become a force ghost.

Star Wars has hinted at the " netherworld of the Force, " an afterlife in which beings retain their consciousness. The ancient Sith planet Exegol was a Force vergence where the boundary between life and the netherworld was thin, explaining why Palpatine could be resurrected and Rey could receive support from the voices of long-dead Jedi in Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker . Those who died and passed into this netherworld of the Force generally could not affect the material world. However, some individuals can train during their lives to become Force Ghosts , retaining the ability to influence the galaxy after death.

The precise nature of this training remains something of a mystery. What has been confirmed, however, is that the heart must be pure for a Jedi to become a Force Ghost . Matt Stover's novelization of Revenge of the Sith includes an extended scene in which Qui-Gon Jinn's Force Ghost speaks to Yoda, written after consultation with George Lucas. According to Qui-Gon's Force Ghost, this power " comes only by the release of self, not the exaltation of self. It comes through compassion, not greed. Love is the answer to the darkness. "

How Qui-Gon Jinn Learned To Become A Force Ghost

Qui-gon was the first to learn the secret in thousands of years.

Qui-Gon Jinn was a maverick among the Jedi , lacking the arrogance to believe his Order understood all the mysteries of the Force. He was willing to go to other Force cults to learn and - as revealed in Star Wars: The Clone Wars - sit at the feet of the Force Priestesses. These beings were connected to the metaphysical nature of the Force, representing the connection between the Living Force of mortal beings and the Cosmic Force of the universe.

The Force Priestesses taught Qui-Gon how to become the first Jedi Force Ghost of modern times , although it is possible that the past Jedi had known the techniques but had become lost throughout millennia - perhaps because of the Jedi-Sith schism. By the end of the Clone Wars, he had learned how to manifest physically at certain Force vergences, and by Obi-Wan Kenobi episode 6, he had mastered the ability to appear after death.

How A Jedi Sees A Force Ghost

Not every jedi can see a force ghost.

It seems a Jedi needs to be fully committed to the light side to perceive a Force Ghost. This would explain why Obi-Wan could not talk to Qui-Gon's Force Ghost during the first decade of his self-imposed exile on Tatooine ; his emotions were too raw, he was filled with regret, and he had lost faith in the Force. It was only when he learned to trust the Force again that he defeated Darth Vader and, subsequently, saw his old master.

There's also a parallel between Luke's increasing commitment to the light side of the Force and his interactions with the Jedi Force Ghost. It was only after Return of the Jedi , where he refused to fall to the dark side and instead redeemed his father with his love, that he could see three Force Ghosts at his side. This makes Rey's inability to sense Force Ghosts through Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker particularly interesting. She was still divided, torn between the light and the dark, and it was only at the end of the film -after fully committing herself to the light - that she saw Luke and Leia.

There are, however, some exceptions to this principle - suggesting a Force Ghost can push through to manifest before those who are not devoted to the light . The Star Wars anthology book Stories of Jedi & Sith features a short story in which, immediately after his death, Yoda's Force Ghost manifested in the presence of Palpatine himself. It's essentially a rematch between Yoda and Palpatine, albeit a philosophical one rather than a battle, with Yoda demonstrating that he has achieved what the Sith cannot. Another story in the anthology suggests Qui-Gon Jinn appeared to Darth Maul hoping to redeem him.

How A Force Ghost Helps Bring Balance To The Force

Other force-sensitive cultures had unique views on force ghosts.

Timothy Zahn's novel Thrawn Ascendancy: Greater Good offers a tantalizing hint that Force Ghosts are crucial to balance in the Force . Set before Grand Admiral Thrawn's exile to the Empire, it tells a story in which the Chiss encounter a mysterious race of Force-sensitives who possess the ability to become Force Ghosts. Their world has suffered terribly due to war, and their leader, the Magys, believes she can best help restore balance by leading her people into killing themselves to become one with the Force (or, as they call it, the Beyond).

This is not positioned as an act of surrender but rather as one of hope, for the Magys believed she understood the purpose of Star Wars ' Force Ghosts. " Our world has been torn and scarred, " she explained, " but perhaps it can be healed. We will join the Beyond and make the attempt. " An act of genocide committed on the Magys' world tainted it with the dark side, but she believed the best counter would be to become one with the Force and work to put it right. This would certainly fit with the role taken on by the Jedi Force Ghosts seen in the main Star Wars saga.

Why Sith Cannot Become Force Ghosts - But What They Can Do Instead

Jedi accept death as natural while the sith attempt to cheat it.

The Sith cannot become true Force Ghosts; only a person who has aligned their spirit with the light side of the Force can do so. Rather, Sith Spirits can cheat death through a technique known as essence transfer . This allows a Sith to avoid the netherworld of the Force by binding their spirit to an object, a physical location, or even another host body.

Luke Skywalker encountered some of these Sith spirits in Adam Christopher's novel Shadow of the Sith , and they were every bit as unnatural as Palpatine would later claim, registering as an absence in the Force rather than a presence in it. Palpatine learned he could only possess the actual body of a person who was under the influence of the dark side at the moment he died.

This would explain some scenes in Return of the Jedi , in which Palpatine apparently wanted Luke Skywalker to kill him in anger . Palpatine's body would already have been coming to the end of its natural lifespan, its deterioration accelerated by the corrupting influence of the dark side, and he would have loved the idea of possessing the son of the Chosen One. Luke refused to kill Palpatine in this way. Worse still, from Palpatine's viewpoint, Darth Vader betrayed him not out of selfish ambition but out of love for his son, meaning he was restored to the light as Palpatine died, so even his body could not become Palpatine's host.

The Emperor was thus banished to the netherworld of the Force, from which he was rescued by the Sith cultists at Exegol, and his spirit was then implanted into a clone body. This proved insufficient to contain the Emperor's spirit, and he tried the same essence transfer trick with Rey in The Rise of Skywalker - but his granddaughter also refused to kill him out of anger and hatred. This time, there was no coming back from the defeat.

How Anakin Skywalker Became A Unique Force Ghost

Anakin's force ghost experience was different from the other jedi.

While it's unclear exactly how Anakin became a Force Ghost, Lucas suggested he accomplished this feat “ because of Obi-Wan and Yoda, " hinting the two helped him. This matches Ryder Windham's novel The Rise & Fall of Darth Vader. There, Anakin awoke in the netherworld of the Force after his death, with Obi-Wan offering to teach him one last technique. The novel was branded non-canon after Disney acquired Lucasfilm in 2012, but the principle likely still stands. While some theorize Anakin must have had his own encounter with the Force Priestesses, Lucas clearly intended there to be an unbroken chain between Qui-Gon Jinn and Anakin.

The Star Wars Special Editions edited Hayden Christensen's Anakin Skywalker into the Force Ghost scene at the end of Return of the Jedi . This was a critical alteration because, in Lucas' view, Anakin Skywalker had really died when he fell to the dark side, replaced with Darth Vader. The redemption of Darth Vader saw Anakin reborn. Obi-Wan was more correct (in strictly metaphysical terms) than he knew when he lied about Anakin's fate to Luke, for the Force itself shared his " certain point of view. " The return of Christensen's younger Anakin as a Force Ghost is best seen as deeply symbolic.

Ahsoka also suggests that Anakin's Force Ghost somehow embodies the light and dark , as he alternated between his two personas in the World Between Worlds. This would align with Anakin's experience on Mortis in Star Wars: The Clone Wars season 3, where he could control beings who embodied the light and dark sides of the Force. It also reflects Anakin's experience in life, living half of it as a Jedi and the other half as a Sith.

How A Sith Can Trap A Force Ghost

Some sith could influence force ghosts.

Ominously, there have been several hints in Star Wars canon that the Sith can trap Force Ghosts. George Mann's Dark Legends is a book of in-universe myths, although Lucasfilm has stressed there's an element of truth to them all. In one of these short stories, "The Gilded Cage," a group of Nightsisters attempt to trick a Sith Lord into confronting a Jedi Force Ghost, hoping he will be destroyed. The Sith sees through their trick and performs a stolen binding ritual to trap the Force Ghost.

Shadow of the Sith suggests Palpatine did something similar with Anakin Skywalker's Force Ghost on Exegol, explaining his absence from the sequel trilogy. Presumably, Anakin broke free of these restraints in The Rise of Skywalker , allowing him to add his voice to the chorus of Jedi encouraging Rey in her final battle against Palpatine. Hopefully, future Star Wars stories will help explain exactly what happened, how Palpatine trapped Anakin Skywalker, and how he escaped whatever imprisonment he was in at this crucial last second.

Every Star Wars movie and TV show is available to stream on Disney+.

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